The Two Shall Be One Flesh

About this book

If the iceberg that sank the Titanic was above the water like a mountain, the crew could have spotted it from afar and avoided it. Unfortunately, that is not how icebergs exist. About 90% of the iceberg’s volume is submerged under water. Only about 10% is visible above the water's surface. And, sad to say, that’s how most marriage problems exist. What we see or hear couples talk or complain about in their relationships is usually the tip of the submerged, complex problems in their personal lives and marriage, just like an iceberg. That is why solving most marriage problems requires time and an approach that goes deep down to deal with the submerged life complexities underpinning the union. It requires formulating a personal or coupletailored counselling and mentorship programme, with a long-term implementation plan. Unfortunately, most couples fail to follow this approach because they find it difficult to set aside the time it requires to deal with the complexities of their marriage challenges. Most couples look for a quick fix for the problems they encounter in their marriage relationship. I have ministered to many couples who do everything within their power to solve their marriage challenges, yet without truly going to the root of what it is that continues to bring pain in their midst. They pray and fast, buy expensive gifts for one another, and go on expensive holidays hoping that these actions will result in the peace and happiness they seek. However, they fail to do one simple but vital thing: setting aside time and committing themselves to a process of dealing with thesubmerged issues in their marriage. Surprisingly, the same people spend time and huge amounts of money to acquire knowledge and skills in their field of work and business. They do not look for a quick fix to their professional and business pursuits. This series of teachings and booklets, “The Study of Complicated, Submerged Marriage Problems,” has been designed to challenge couples to give themselves time to solve the complex issues they face in their marriagerelationships. In this series, we are going to study foursubmerged marriage problems, which I have will result in the peace and happiness they seek. However, they fail to do one simple but vital thing: setting aside time and committing themselves to a process of dealing with the submerged issues in their marriage. Surprisingly, the same people spend time and huge amounts of money to acquire knowledge and skills in their field of work and business. They do not look for a quick fix to their professional and business pursuits. This series of teachings and booklets, “The Study of Complicated, Submerged Marriage Problems,” has been designed to challenge couples to give themselves time to solve the complex issues they face in their marriage relationships. In this series, we are going to study four submerged marriage problems, which I have identified in my years of marriage counselling. Oftentimes, these problems go unsolved because of their complexity. As a result, they sink many once solid marriages, just like the iceberg sank the “unsinkable” Titanic. These problems are: 1. The Effects Of Ungodly Soul-Ties, Emotional Detachment, And Emotional Divorce Of Couples On A Marriage. 2. The Negative Influence of Spiritual Forces, Such as Demons, Curses and Witchcraft, on Marriage and Family. 3. The Negative Effects Of Mental And Emotional Illnesses On Marriage Relationships 4. The Negative Effects Of Mistakenly Thinking Love Is The Main Purpose Of Marriage And The Reason Behind The Success Of Marriages. identified in my years of marriage counselling. Oftentimes, these problems go unsolved because of their complexity. As a result, they sink many once solid marriages, just like the iceberg sank the “unsinkable” Titanic. These problems are: 1. The Effects Of Ungodly Soul-Ties, Emotional Detachment, And Emotional Divorce Of Couples On A Marriage. 2. The Negative Influence of Spiritual Forces, Such as Demons, Curses and Witchcraft, on Marriage and Family. 3. The Negative Effects Of Mental And Emotional Illnesses On Marriage Relationships 4. The Negative Effects Of Mistakenly Thinking Love Is The Main Purpose Of Marriage And The Reason Behind The Success Of Marriages. 5. This is the first of a series of four books in which we will be studying the effects of ungodly soul ties, emotional detachment, and divorce on marriage. I encourage you to look for the rest of the books in the series. Dr Joseph Kansema

Key themes

• How to identify your God-given assignment
• Overcoming the delays of life
• Building a life of intentionality
• Lessons from African wisdom and Scripture