In my previous post, I indicated that it is the desire of every normal thinking person to succeed, and to succeed early in life. Unfortunately, it does not happen this way for the majority of us. Only a few manage to succeed and be financially independent, early in life. The majority of people see years passing by without achieving their aspirations and dreams.
In this article I will discuss why most people fail or find themselves late in the pursuit of success. Here are some of the reasons we have to consider:
1. Not having Clear Aspirations and Dreams Early in Life
Most people, who succeed early in life, get the clarity of what they want to do, become and have, very early in life and formulate the plan of action to achieve their dreams. On the other hand, most people who fail or become late do not have clear aspirations and dreams early in life. They go through life without having the clarity of what they want out of life.
Not having clear aspirations and dreams, early in life, is one of the reasons why most people become late in achieving success. If you are going to turn things around and become successful, you need to have clarity of what you want to do, have and become.
Let me ask you a question: Do you have clarity of what you want to be, achieved and have at a given time of your life? Have you written down the dream and the plan of action that will enable you to achieve your dream? If you have no clear written down dreams of your life, you have a slim chance of succeeding.
2. Not Taking 100% Responsibility Early in Life
It is interesting to realize that many people grow to adulthood without knowing that they are totally responsible for their success. No one, including their parents, owes them anything.
Most people, who become successful, early in life, come to the realization that they are 100% responsible for their success at an early stage of their life. As a result, they develop an independent attitude and start to think and plan for their life. On the other hand, those who do not realize that they are 100% responsible for their life remain with a dependant attitude even when they are adults.
I was fortunate to learn this early in life, and I learnt it from my father. He brought this to my attention after coming back from visiting my brother on one school holiday. When I was told that I will be going to visit my brother, I thought God has answered my prayer; maybe I will come back home with some good clothes and a pair of shoes.
Unfortunately, this did not happen. My brother only gave me transport money and K2.00 (Zambian Currency), which could be equivalent to 10 American cents. I was very angry and I wanted to throw the K2, but I kept it because I wanted to go and show it to my father, as I present my case.
When I arrived home, I went straight to my father and vented my anger. I told him that my brother bought me nothing and all he gave me was transport money and K2.00. I thought my father would share my anger and tell me that my brother was wrong.
I was mistaken. Instead, he looked straight into my eyes and said the unexpected. He said, “Did you work for that K2?” I said, “No.” He then said, “Well you have to be thankful for anything you are given. If you want anything more than that, you must work for it.” Believe me, it almost 44 years ago, but I can still hear, “If you want anything more than that, you must work for it.”
These experiences brought home the fact that I am 100% responsible for my life and that I should not expect anyone to do anything for me, for free. If they did, it is well and good. But I must always take responsibility and pay the required price to become or get what I want in life.
This attitude enabled me to sleep in a homeless shelter with a smile on my face. I was chased from my brother’s home two months before writing my Form three (Grade 10) exams. I had nowhere to stay. So, I went to stay in the homeless shelter for two months.
I woke up every morning and went to the Library to study with a smile on my face. Deep down in my heart I knew that no one was responsible for my life. Circumstances may be against me, but I have to do what I have to do, and keep on pursuing my dreams.
Many people do not learn this lesson early in life. They have a sense of entitlement that makes them think that their parents, brothers and the government owe them.
On the other hand, people, who succeed take 100% responsibility for their lives, early in life. They know that it is their responsibility to work for the kind of life they want and that others are just helping them.
This article is an extract from Chapter Three of my soon Coming Book.
To be Continued